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Does My Child Have an Anxiety Disorder?

SCHOOL KID ANXIETYAs a child, the world is full of fears and challenges, real and imaginary, that adults cannot recollect from their own childhood. Most of these childhood fears and challenges are temporary and eventually outgrown, but studies show that one in eight children suffer from an anxiety disorder and anxiety has become one of the most common mental health conditions in children. At some point in life, children will experience some form of anxiety, however, when the symptoms become distressing and interfere with normal living then the anxiety can be considered and classified as an anxiety disorder. The mind and emotions of a child are continuously changing and developing at different rates, so it may not always be easy to distinguish normal fears and challenges from those that may require additional attention. That is why it is important to important not only to assess the severity of the symptoms that obstruct daily living, but also be aware of the developmental progress of each individual child. Assessing if the fears and behaviors are appropriate on a developmental level is crucial for each child. Many situations will cause children to display anxiety; however, if they continue beyond reasonable age norms, or are intense and distressing, then it could likely be the beginning stage of an anxiety disorder. These intense or distressing anxieties can eventually cause more serious distress, destroy a family system, and interfere with a child’s development or education.
Anxiety disorders that your child could be experiencing are:

Generalized anxiety disorder. With this common anxiety disorder, children worry excessively about many things, such as school, the health or safety of family members, or the future in general. They may always think of the worst that could happen. Children with generalized anxiety tend to be very hard on themselves and strive for perfection. Children with this disorder are self-conscious, self-doubting, and excessively concerned about meeting other people’s expectations. Along with the worry and dread, kids may have physical symptoms, such as headaches, stomachaches, muscle tension, or tiredness. With generalized anxiety, worries can feel like a burden, making life feel overwhelming or out of control.

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Turning Your Child’s Aggression into Healthy Expressions

MAD BOYFrustration and anger often marks itself as shoving, hitting, and other aggressive behaviors in children. Teaching children how to handle their feelings reduces aggressive behaviors by giving them alternative openings. Children who display aggressive behaviors need support and direction to help them manage their behaviors and responses in different situations and environments. Although many children have occasional outbursts of anger and aggression, the children who have the support of parents who moderate and channel their children’s aggression towards healthy development will be able to operate with the skills to express their emotions and behaviors in a healthy way.

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Looking for a Lifetime of Love?

Looking for a Lifetime of Love?

I recently began reading  a book by one of my favorite clinical Psychologists, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) founder, Dr. Sue Johnson.   Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love will give you greater insight into the defining principles of your relationship togetherness and can help you create an even deeper bond.  In this book, Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy with the belief that motivated couples may be able to solve their own problems within their relationships once they understand the basic principles.  The premise of Hold Me Tight is surprisingly simple: stop worrying about your past, or what you feel that your partner is lacking. Johnson states that the trick to a long lasting, healthy, committed relationship starts with understanding that codependency is a good thing, similarly to how a child relies on a parent for love and nurturing.  Be open to your loved one’s needs, and you’ll reconnect naturally and lovingly. Hold Me Tight walks you through seven conversations that capture the defining moments in a love relationship and instructs how to shape these moments to create a secure and lasting bond.

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