If you struggle to set healthy boundaries with pushy family members, pick up today’s Wall Street Journal and find Elizabeth Bernstein’s article “The Delicate Art of Pushing Back: When Nosy Relatives Step Over the Line, Be Calm, Clear and Set Firm Boundaries” for some helpful tips, including a couple of mine!
Here are my contribution to the topic…
Don’t worry too much about giving offense
Experts say when setting boundaries you can’t worry too much about giving offense. Remember that you have a right to set the boundary. “I often remind my clients that no one has ever died from being disappointed or offended,” says Julie Hanks, a licensed clinical social worker in Salt Lake City.
Assume positive intent
To establish, or re-establish, boundaries with someone you care about, start with empathy, Ms. Hanks says. Assume positive intent. The other person probably didn’t mean to hurt or annoy you. A mother-in-law who drops by unannounced too often may miss her grandchildren and want a closer relationship with you.
Did you know that Cosmopolitan Magazine has a regular marriage column? I didn’t know until I interviewed with the talented and witty writer Kristina Grish, who chronicles the ups and downs of her own marriage in her monthly Cosmo “Love, For Keeps” column.
Check out page 122 of Dec. Issue (yes, the one with the lovely and insanely talented Taylor Swift on the cover) or download the pdf below.
Today marks the 10 years since of the founding of Wasatch Family Therapy, LLC. I started out as a solo practitioner and big dreams of creating an exceptional therapy clinic that not only provides excellent clinical services, but also provides therapists the opportunity to create their “dream practice” in a nurturing work environment that supports personal growth and strong family relationships.
As I take a step back and reflect on this ten year journey many tender emotions surface. I am grateful for all of the trusting clients who have allowed us to support them during life crises, transitions, and difficult times. Thank you to our amazing clients!
10 Year Milestones
- 10,000 families served
- 4000 + social media updates
- 300 local and national media interviews
- 50 Newsletters sent
- Grown from 1 to 14 therapists
- 13 interns trained or supervised
- 1 to 2 clinic locations
- 9 babies born to our staff members
- 5 office spaces outgrown
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Body-image issues are more widespread than ever and effecting children at a much younger age. 80-percent of American 10-year-old girls have been on a diet, according to a recent study from upworthy.com.
Ways to combat body obsession in young girls
1. Model a healthy body image
Be aware of your negative comments about your own body and the impact they could be making on your children. Acknowledge that your behavior and that you are working on focusing on the positive.
Do you ever compare yourself and your marriage to other couples who do exotic vacations, creative dates, and seem to be a lot more interesting than you and your spouse? I chatted with writer Kristina Grish, also a married woman, and gave her my thoughts on this topic for a Cosmopolitan article.
Are We Boring? (pdf download)
You may be surprised to learn that “moderation in all things” applies to moods, too. June Gruber, a professor of psychology at Yale University compares happiness to food. We need it, but too much of it can cause problems. While happiness is associated with a stronger immune response, longer life, and ability to endure painful experiences, it also has a dark side. I was recently interviewed on KSL morning news about this interesting twist on happiness.
KSL AM news interview originally posted here
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Insecurity about appearance among teens girls is nothing new. In past decades, girls would ask friends and peers, “How do I look?” The internet now allows teens to take that question to the masses asking in YouTube videos “Am I pretty or ugly?” Desperate cries for validation are opening up young women to mean and insensitive comments or sexual innuendos by anonymous commenters.
When I first heard about these videos I felt sick inside. It played to the insecure teen that still lurks in me, and at times. I can quickly connect with those feelings of early adolescence when I was trying to find myself and to be accepted by others.
We are constantly bombarded with messages that women’s primary value is in the attractiveness of her physical appearance, and unfortunately sometimes the parents place excessive emphasis on daughter’s external qualities.