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Rekindle that spark in your Relationship

It is very common for couples to reach a point in their relationship where they start to feel more like roommates than lovers. One thing that we forget once we are past the romancing stage is that a relationship continues to take work. It is easy to get comfortable and settled with our partner to where we stop putting forth the effort to win each other over. Though there is a deep and secure love between you and your partner, when this happens, it can feel like the spark is gone, and we begin to mourn for that loss of passion.

Here are some ideas on how to get that spark back and rekindle the passion.

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1. Regular dates
Having kids and busy work schedules can make it tough to find time for just the two of you. Don’t let yourselves fall into the same routines. Make sure you plan time for each other and put forth the effort to plan fun dates. Your relationship is just as important as your kids and work, and it requires some attention as well. Go on dates, and get that much needed couple time together.

2. Physical touch
It is always important to make time for intimacy through sex with your partner, but there is also a lot of power in physical contact. Holding hands, rubbing your spouse’s back, raking your fingers though his hair, lingering kisses, and long hugs are great ways to ignite some passion. Touching each other more often helps us feel closer to one another.

3. Find something you both love
Finding a hobby to share with your spouse is a great way to ignite a spark. Take a class, try something new, be adventurous… When you share experiences with your spouse that you both enjoy together, you will feel a stronger connection to one another.

4. Remember the passion
Sometimes just remembering what it is that first made us fall in love with our partners can help bring some of that passion back. Try making a list of all the reasons why you love your partner. Write them down, and read them to each other. Acknowledge the things that you appreciate about the other and may be taking for granted. Besides building up your partner and making them feel good, you will also recognize all that deep love that is already there.

5. Vacation
If and when possible, go on getaways together. Even small road trips can be fun and great opportunities to talk and just focus on each other.

6. Make it a joint effort
It is not easy to rekindle the passion in your relationship if you are the only one working at it. You and your spouse need to help one another. Talk to each other and express that you are trying to make an effort to reignite the spark and that it is important to you, and hopefully you will be in on it together.

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Achieving Happiness by Taking Risks

As many of us have learned through experience, sometimes in order to feel happiness, love, a sense of belonging, and so forth, it requires that we take a big risk to do it. When we put ourselves out there and get our hopes up, it leaves room for disappointment as well. In this video, Brene Brown, PhD, talks about how our culture is losing tolerance for vulnerability. One thing she said that really stuck out to me is that we would rather live in disappointment than feel disappointment. We protect ourselves from hurt or sadness, by expecting that it will not work out and, as a result, we do not take any chances or risks. Watch this video and find out how we can overcome this fear of disappointment and start opening ourselves up for more joy and love in our lives.

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Don’t Board That Train: Stop Anxiety In Its Tracks

Bluebell Railway 22-10-2010I receive a newsletter each month from Happy People Win, and a story caught my eye about worry and anxiety. It seems as though we often use a lot of our energy worrying about things that have not yet happened or that are out of our control. In this newsletter, Jean Steel, a motivational speaker, told a story about a friend who recently had a suspicious mammogram and the doctor wanted to perform more tests. Her friend started worrying and started “what if’ing”, thinking of the worst case scenarios that could happen. Another friend looked at her and said, “Don’t board that train without a ticket.”

I thought that was a powerful insight. If we can remember to stop ourselves from worrying needlessly, it can help us reduce much of our anxiety, and we can use our energy on more positive emotions. So, as things come up for you and you start to worry, first ask yourself, “Am I boarding that train without a ticket?”
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5 Easy Ways to Enhance your Marriage

1. Weekly dates

Life gets very busy, no one is denying that. However, your relationship is important- even if it has to be an hour lunch once a week, make sure you find that time just for the two of you.

2. Ask for needs.

It sounds easy, but we get caught up in our expectations for what our partner “should” be doing. Don’t wait around for them to do it. If you need something from your partner, just ask for it! Communicate!

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3 Small Ways To Make A BIG Difference In Your Marriage

Why is it that the person we love, care about, and trust the most, can also hurt us or make us feel sad more than anyone else? The answer is simple. It is not so much what our spouse or partner does, it is our expectations and our hurt that the person that we trust to protect us and love us more than anyone else could ever do something that would make us feel bad.

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Making New Year’s Resolutions Count

Most new years usually start the same. We are bright and hopeful as we set new goals for ourselves. However, if you are like me, the motivation and excitement for these resolutions that came with the new year seem to fade after the first week; and then as time goes by the resolutions you were so excited about become a burden.  So, how can we make our resolutions count this year? Here are some ideas on how to keep those resolutions at the top of your list, and make them last to the end of the year.

Wasatch Family Therapy1. Start small

When setting New Year’s resolutions, start small then get bigger as you feed off your success. For example, I heard something on the radio once about making changes.  Exercising is a great resolution, but it can feel pretty overwhelming if we start with, “I’m going to go to the gym for one hour everyday”.  Instead, one woman determined to do push-ups for just one minute every day—something she was sure she could commit to. She did, gained muscle, self confidence, and of course, once started couldn’t keep to one minute—she lost 7 pounds the first month.  When you feel better you do better and a good cycle begins. Starting small can be applied to any goal.

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Relaxation Tips

Haylee Heyn

Haylee Heyn, MFT Intern

Stressed Out? MFT Intern Haylee Heyn gives tips to help you R – E – L – A – X in this mental health Q&A for AssociatedContent.com

“Stress can come from a number of different sources, mostly related to a person’s relationships and environment. Often times a person’s greatest source of stress comes from unresolved conflict in their lives, causing them anxiety. Change is another common factor. Humans are creatures of habit and therefore leaving a comfort zone or confronting something new and different can be a great source of stress for an individual. Changes in occupation, relationship status, family crises, conflict with morals and behaviors, and many more also contribute to anxiety. Stress will look differently to everyone. Individual personalities and reactions to stressful situations are more an indicator of a person’s stress level than the actual cause of the stress.”

For more relaxation tips read the entire Q&A article.

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