Posts Tagged ‘Haylee Heyn’
Achieving Happiness by Taking Risks
As many of us have learned through experience, sometimes in order to feel happiness, love, a sense of belonging, and so forth, it requires that we take a big risk to do it. When we put ourselves out there and get our hopes up, it leaves room for disappointment as well. In this video, Brene Brown, PhD, talks about how our culture is losing tolerance for vulnerability. One thing she said that really stuck out to me is that we would rather live in disappointment than feel disappointment. We protect ourselves from hurt or sadness, by expecting that it will not work out and, as a result, we do not take any chances or risks. Watch this video and find out how we can overcome this fear of disappointment and start opening ourselves up for more joy and love in our lives.
Don’t Board That Train: Stop Anxiety In Its Tracks
I receive a newsletter each month from Happy People Win, and a story caught my eye about worry and anxiety. It seems as though we often use a lot of our energy worrying about things that have not yet happened or that are out of our control. In this newsletter, Jean Steel, a motivational speaker, told a story about a friend who recently had a suspicious mammogram and the doctor wanted to perform more tests. Her friend started worrying and started “what if’ing”, thinking of the worst case scenarios that could happen. Another friend looked at her and said, “Don’t board that train without a ticket.”
I thought that was a powerful insight. If we can remember to stop ourselves from worrying needlessly, it can help us reduce much of our anxiety, and we can use our energy on more positive emotions. So, as things come up for you and you start to worry, first ask yourself, “Am I boarding that train without a ticket?”
photo credit: Karen Roe
5 Easy Ways to Enhance your Marriage
1. Weekly dates
Life gets very busy, no one is denying that. However, your relationship is important- even if it has to be an hour lunch once a week, make sure you find that time just for the two of you.
2. Ask for needs.
It sounds easy, but we get caught up in our expectations for what our partner “should” be doing. Don’t wait around for them to do it. If you need something from your partner, just ask for it! Communicate!
3 Small Ways To Make A BIG Difference In Your Marriage
Why is it that the person we love, care about, and trust the most, can also hurt us or make us feel sad more than anyone else? The answer is simple. It is not so much what our spouse or partner does, it is our expectations and our hurt that the person that we trust to protect us and love us more than anyone else could ever do something that would make us feel bad.
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Making New Year’s Resolutions Count
Most new years usually start the same. We are bright and hopeful as we set new goals for ourselves. However, if you are like me, the motivation and excitement for these resolutions that came with the new year seem to fade after the first week; and then as time goes by the resolutions you were so excited about become a burden. So, how can we make our resolutions count this year? Here are some ideas on how to keep those resolutions at the top of your list, and make them last to the end of the year.
1. Start small
When setting New Year’s resolutions, start small then get bigger as you feed off your success. For example, I heard something on the radio once about making changes. Exercising is a great resolution, but it can feel pretty overwhelming if we start with, “I’m going to go to the gym for one hour everyday”. Instead, one woman determined to do push-ups for just one minute every day—something she was sure she could commit to. She did, gained muscle, self confidence, and of course, once started couldn’t keep to one minute—she lost 7 pounds the first month. When you feel better you do better and a good cycle begins. Starting small can be applied to any goal.
Relaxation Tips
Haylee Heyn, MFT Intern
Stressed Out? MFT Intern Haylee Heyn gives tips to help you R – E – L – A – X in this mental health Q&A for AssociatedContent.com
“Stress can come from a number of different sources, mostly related to a person’s relationships and environment. Often times a person’s greatest source of stress comes from unresolved conflict in their lives, causing them anxiety. Change is another common factor. Humans are creatures of habit and therefore leaving a comfort zone or confronting something new and different can be a great source of stress for an individual. Changes in occupation, relationship status, family crises, conflict with morals and behaviors, and many more also contribute to anxiety. Stress will look differently to everyone. Individual personalities and reactions to stressful situations are more an indicator of a person’s stress level than the actual cause of the stress.”