…and other holidays you feel pressure to make IT great!
There are a few holidays, you know which ones they are, that bring a chain of different thoughts.
“My anniversary is coming. I guess that means we should probably have sex.”
“Sweet, it’s my birthday. This means a party in the bed tonight!”
“It’s Valentine’s, does that mean that I should actually dress up for sex tonight?”
There is even a song titled Birthday Sex by the artist Jeremih. So, what is it that creates these expectations about holiday sex? Is it that we consider sex the ultimate gift and it seems fitting to give it on a holiday? Is it because in a situation where someone feels deprived of sex, that seems like a day you really shouldn’t deprive someone? Or is it that it is the ultimate celebration of your love for someone and that seems like a perfect day to celebrate? Who knows?
I am not here stating that it is neither good nor bad to have expectations about holiday sex. You and your partner can decide whether that is awesome or a problem. I thought it would be fun to consider some of the pros and cons.
- We usually also eat a lot of great food on these holidays and sex with a full stomach can be… interesting.
- Expectations can add stress and stress can be debilitating when it comes to sexual function.
- You can’t save your sexual relationship with your partner on a holiday every now and again. Spice is necessary more than 3 times a year.
- If you don’t have holiday sex and it is expected, it can lead to a lot of hurt, passive avoidance techniques, or anger.
- If sex is already a problem, the problem usually comes to a head when these expectations are unfulfilled and you can spend a perfectly good holiday fighting.
- If you conceive, you can guarantee you don’t have to share an anniversary or birthday with your kid.
- Going above and beyond on anything, sex included, can really make your partner feel wanted, seen and important.
- The pressure of expected holiday sex, keeps you on your toes and actively working on improving your sexual relationship.
- These holidays can create deep feelings of love, and perhaps create the desire to have sex in the first place.
- If you plan to have sex on these holidays, the kids are usually gone and sex can be more enjoyable.
Consider these points for yourselves. Wishing you a Valentine’s Day full of love and closeness for whomever or whatever you love!More