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When Your Holidays Aren’t Merry: Dr. Julie Hanks on Mom Show on KSL Radio

When Your Holidays Aren’t Merry: Dr. Julie Hanks on Mom Show on KSL Radio

The pressure to be cheerful and happy during the holidays can be particularly hard for people dealing with grief and loss: the death of a loved one, your first Christmas since being divorced, job loss, or just the passage of time. Lindsay Aerts, host of The Mom Show on KSL Radio, and I sat down to talk about how to manage painful feelings during a time when you’re “supposed” to be merry.

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Preventing Holiday Burnout: Mom Show on KSL Radio

Preventing Holiday Burnout: Mom Show on KSL Radio

 Are you feeling overwhelmed by high expectations and “shoulds”? I sat down with Lindsay Aerts, host of KSL Radio’s The Mom Show to share tips for moms to prevent holiday burnout. Here are a few topics we cover during this interview:

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How to Start Your Own Family Holiday Traditions: Dr. Julie Hanks on KSL Mom Show

How to Start Your Own Family Holiday Traditions: Dr. Julie Hanks on KSL Mom Show

If you’ve decided it’s time to do your own immediate family traditions for the holidays, how do you break it to your extended family that you won’t be joining them this year?  I talk with Lindsay Aerts from KSL Radio’s The Mom Show about how to start the conversation and manage difficult feelings that might arise.

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How to Stop Snapping at Your Kids: Dr. Julie Hanks on KSL Mom Show

How to Stop Snapping at Your Kids: Dr. Julie Hanks on KSL Mom Show

Every parent has lost their patience and snapped at their kid. Why do we do it? What’s underneath  our impatience. Is there anything we can do to stop it? I chat with Lindsay about how to understand what’s really going on and prevention strategies to avoid losing our temper. Listen to my this KSL Radio Mom Show with Lindsay Aerts.

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Motherhood, Guilt About Not Being Productive, and Beliefs about Motherhood that Hurt Us: KSL Radio Mom Show

Motherhood, Guilt About Not Being Productive, and Beliefs about Motherhood that Hurt Us: KSL Radio Mom Show

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Assertiveness Tips for Moms: KSL Radio Mom Show

Assertiveness Tips for Moms: KSL Radio Mom Show

Assertiveness Tips for MomsToday on KSL Radio’s The Mom Show with Lindsay Aerts I got to share some assertiveness tips for moms from my new book The Assertiveness Guide for Women!

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Is Talking About Race Just a Phase?

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As parents, the ability to talk with our kids about race can be very challenging. Over the summer,  I had a chance to talk with KSL Radio about the term “transracial” as it related to a popular story of the fallout and national conversation about race, when a white woman chose to identify as a black woman for professional and personal reasons.  In the radio interview I addressed the term transracial as an adoption term only and I discussed the history of “Passing” in a America. What I didn’t get a chance to talk about (because we only had 2 minutes) was how to help parents of children who may hear about being transracial and feel that they, too, identify with another cultural or ethnic group outside of their own.

Click the link below to listen to LaShawn Schultz talk with KSL Radio
https://audioboom.com/boos/3288288-the-term-transracial-new-focus-in-the-rachel-dolezal-race-debate

Parents may wonder how to address it or whether to ignore it and hope it passes like a rebellious taste in music. You don’t have to be a scholar about race relations in America in order to talk to your child about racial identity. What you do have to be aware of is the relationship you have with your child and the reality of identity development in the life of an adolescent.  Adolescence can be a trying time both for the tweenager, the teenager, and their parents and caregivers. This is because identity and the ability to explore it is in a full fledged developmental process. Identity itself is a lifelong process that only begins in adolescence. Our goal in parenting through change is to help our kids navigate the questions that arise from their crises.

While racial identity development is a separate experience reserved for the lived experience from birth of a specific racial or ethnic identity, the discussion of feeling a connection and kinship to a racial group that is not part of your own and only experienced in a social interactions is different.  The ability of parents to remember and do the following 3 things will help keep your connection to your child as durable as it is flexible.

  1. Recognize that a “crisis” is not a bad thing, it is simply an unanswered question or series of questions. It’s okay to explore questions with your child because this builds critical thinking skills.
  2. Realize that your child bringing the unanswered question to you is as much a compliment as it is a hearing test. Your child wants to know if you’ll hear them and listen when they talk.
  3. While your child cannot change their racial identity, the relationship you have with them is what will change as you use your ability to talk with them as an emotional connection point.  Connection is what allows you to talk with them about race as a social construct and get underneath their questions to reach the desire for emotion and validation that is fueling the questions about their identity in the first place.

The three things are the foundation of your relational connection to your child and will make a big difference in your relationship with them all because of your willingness to understand them.

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Clair Mellenthin Featured On “A Woman’s View” and Deseretnews.com

Clair Mellenthin, clinical director,  joined Amanda Dickson on “A Woman’s View” to discuss the
deeper meaning of texting. Why do some people prefer to text instead of talk? It seems that some may prefer the added layer of distance that this method of communication allows for.

“It’s all about perception,” Clair Mellenthin, clinical director for Wasatch Family Therapy, explained. “Kids think, ‘Mom, if you call me, that’s going to take all my time. Just text me.’ When in reality, it’s about the same.”

“It may be dehumanizing our relationships,” Mellenthin opined. “It puts distance in our relationships. People break up. They get together. They do it all on text and on Facebook.”

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Why are we getting more anxious and stressed?: KSL Radio

KSL Radio’s The Nightside Project invited me to talk about why Americans are more anxious and stressed than ever and what we can do about it here in Utah.  I had so much fun that I ended up staying for another segment talking about the importance of men expressing vulnerability in relationships and the top movies that make men cry (think sports and animals). Click on link for (second hour) for Thursday, February 3, 2011

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