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5 Common Road Blocks to Couple Intimacy

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5 common road blocks that could be keeping you and your partner from optimal intimacy!

Environment

Work life, parenting responsibilities, maintaining a home, dishes in the sink or a bedroom overcrowded with laundry, these are just a few examples of things that contribute to shaping our environment. Is there anything present or obstacles in your environment that could interfering with opportunities to create more intimacy. Environment can play a crucial role in our ability to focus and dedicate time to growing and nurturing intimacy in our home and relationships.

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Surviving the Bomb: First Steps After the Affair

Surviving the Bomb: First Steps After the Affair

Finding out that your partner has been unfaithful has the potential to be one of the most devastating experiences a person can encounter in his/her life.   A common and appropriate reaction, given the circumstances, is panic.  There is generally nothing short of a roller coaster of emotions, and as a result, many couples do unintentional damage before they can seek help.  This is to be expected as no one tells you what you should do in the immediate aftermath of an affair.

The main goal is to limit the destruction in the time between finding out and getting help.  Here are some crisis control tips to follow until you can get some additional help:

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Rekindle that spark in your Relationship

It is very common for couples to reach a point in their relationship where they start to feel more like roommates than lovers. One thing that we forget once we are past the romancing stage is that a relationship continues to take work. It is easy to get comfortable and settled with our partner to where we stop putting forth the effort to win each other over. Though there is a deep and secure love between you and your partner, when this happens, it can feel like the spark is gone, and we begin to mourn for that loss of passion.

Here are some ideas on how to get that spark back and rekindle the passion.

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1. Regular dates
Having kids and busy work schedules can make it tough to find time for just the two of you. Don’t let yourselves fall into the same routines. Make sure you plan time for each other and put forth the effort to plan fun dates. Your relationship is just as important as your kids and work, and it requires some attention as well. Go on dates, and get that much needed couple time together.

2. Physical touch
It is always important to make time for intimacy through sex with your partner, but there is also a lot of power in physical contact. Holding hands, rubbing your spouse’s back, raking your fingers though his hair, lingering kisses, and long hugs are great ways to ignite some passion. Touching each other more often helps us feel closer to one another.

3. Find something you both love
Finding a hobby to share with your spouse is a great way to ignite a spark. Take a class, try something new, be adventurous… When you share experiences with your spouse that you both enjoy together, you will feel a stronger connection to one another.

4. Remember the passion
Sometimes just remembering what it is that first made us fall in love with our partners can help bring some of that passion back. Try making a list of all the reasons why you love your partner. Write them down, and read them to each other. Acknowledge the things that you appreciate about the other and may be taking for granted. Besides building up your partner and making them feel good, you will also recognize all that deep love that is already there.

5. Vacation
If and when possible, go on getaways together. Even small road trips can be fun and great opportunities to talk and just focus on each other.

6. Make it a joint effort
It is not easy to rekindle the passion in your relationship if you are the only one working at it. You and your spouse need to help one another. Talk to each other and express that you are trying to make an effort to reignite the spark and that it is important to you, and hopefully you will be in on it together.

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Help Your Man Lean In To Fatherhood: Studio 5

 

Therapist Julie Hanks offers advice on how to help your man more involved in parenting. It’s a strategy that could make your whole family happier.


Facebook executive Sheryl Sandberg’s book “Lean In” encourages women to step up, take risks, and lead in at work, at school, and in their communities. However, for women with children to seize leadership opportunities requires men to lean in more at home. Whether you’re a mother who is working part-time or full-time outside of the home, or you are a stay-at-home mom, there are things we can do encourage our husband’s to lean in to fatherhood. Not only is an involved father necessary for you to embrace leadership opportunities in the community, research consistently shows that your children will benefit from their father’s involvement in their lives. Here are a few of the ways children benefit from having an involved father:

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Secret Sauce To Happy Marriage: Julie Hanks Featured on Yahoo!

Secret Sauce To Happy Marriage: Julie Hanks Featured on Yahoo!

I woke up to some fun news this morning! I found out that my article about how empathy is crucial to a good marriage is featured on Yahoo! Homepage and is currently the most popular article with 3.3K Facebook shares and over 2400 comments. No. Way.

If you like the article, please share and spread the message of the importance of empathy in relationships. It is THE most important skill in marriage.

Read Empathy: The Secret Sauce To A Happy Marriage

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Can Men & Women Be Just Friends: KSL Radio Interview

Can men and women be “just friends”? Do men and women feel differently about their platonic friendships? Ethan and Alex of KSL Radio’s The Nightside Project invited me to chat with them about an article

Just friends? Guys reveal sexual interest in gal pals (MSNBC)

Listen to my KSL Nightside Project interview (9:20)

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Are We A Boring Couple? Julie Hanks quoted in Cosmopolitan

Do you ever compare yourself and your marriage to other couples who do exotic vacations, creative dates, and seem to be a lot more interesting than you and your spouse? I chatted with writer Kristina Grish, also a married woman, and gave her my thoughts on this topic for a Cosmopolitan article.

Are We Boring? (pdf download)

 

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5 Steps to Creating a Successful Stepfamily

Getting remarried is a happy and exciting time for many couples, filled with renewed hope and possibilities. However, what many couples don’t realize is that starting a new step family can also be very difficult, complete with an enormous set of challenges and transitions that none of them saw coming. In fact, about 60% of remarriages eventually end in divorce, because step families have no idea how to navigate through these unexpected challenges. So, how can your step family fall into the other 40%? The following suggestions can help you get started in the right direction:

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Married Men Have Better Sex

Finally, there’s some definitive evidence to suggest the grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence.  There is a popular sentiment that married men feel stuck, unsatisfied and terribly jealous of their single friends, who seem to have all the fun.  This sentiment has been carried on by movies like It’s a Wonderful Life, and more recently by The Family Man or The Change-Up.  It seems as though at times married men question if being married is worth it.  Well, in a new article by Everyday Health.com, research suggests there are many ways men benefit from tying the knot, and some may surprise you.

Read the article.

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What Your Mother In Law Is REALLY Trying To Tell You: Studio 5

Mothers in law and daughters in law don’t always speak the same language. But, there are ways to prevent miscommunication and avoid misunderstandings. Therapist, Julie Hanks, explains what those mixed messages really mean.

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