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This Week at WFT 9/29/14

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Monday, September 29th – Holly Willard, LCSW on KSL Fresh Living

Tune in today to hear what Holly Willard has to say on the topic “Why Kids Lie”.

 

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What To Do When You Don’t Like Your Child’s Friends: Julie Hanks interview LDS Living


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Have you ever gotten bad vibes from one of your children’s friends? Maybe you felt like he/she was a negative influence or was causing your son or daughter to be unhappy.  It can be hard to know when you as a parent should get involved and when it’s better to just let things be.

Julie Hanks recently offered her views to LDS Living Magazine on how to best handle these situations. Here are a few strategies for what to do when you don’t like your kids’ friends:

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Harnessing the Power of Procrastination: Julie Hanks on Studio 5

Harnessing the Power of Procrastination: Julie Hanks on Studio 5

Most all of us have procrastinated at one point or another. We delay doing things like taxes, cleaning, work projects, etc. While we tend to think of this as a bad habit, it’s possible to manage the tendency to put things off to actually benefit you. Here are 4 ways to harness the power of procrastination:

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Trim Your To-Do List Glamour UK article

 

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LCSW Julie Hanks talked about to-do lists in the September 2014 issue of Glamour UK magazine.

Click here for the latest edition of Glamour UK.

And here’s more about  Julie’s book that was mentioned, “The Burnout Cure:  An Emotional Survival Guide for Overwhelmed Women.”

 

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4 Ways to Stop Procrastinating Sharecare Article

canstockphotoHave you ever had a task that you kept putting off?  Maybe it was only for a day or two, but maybe it was for weeks or even months.  Procrastination is something we all experience from time to time, but thankfully there are steps we can take to minimize this problem.

Julie Hanks shares her personal and professional insight on ways to beat procrastination in an article on Dr. Oz’s Sharecare.  Here’s an outline of a few of her ideas:

1)  Know Your Patterns

2)  Break Tasks into Smaller Chunks

3)  Go for “Good Enough”

4)  Use Deadlines to Help Focus and Motivate

 

Click here for the full article on how to stop procrastinating for good!

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Supporting a Friend Through Miscarriage: Julie Hanks interview with Woman’s Day

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Chances are that you know a woman who has had a miscarriage.  It can be difficult to know how to respond when a friend experiences such a tragedy.

LCSW Julie Hanks recently offered her professional insight on the topic to a Woman’s Day article entitled “9 Things Never to Say to a Woman Who’s Had a Miscarriage.”  Here’s a quick review of what not to say in this situation:

1)  Nothing (acknowledge the loss; don’t stay silent)

2)  ”You can always try again.”

3)  ”It wasn’t meant to be.”

4)  ”At least you already have one.”

5)  ”At least you weren’t that far along.”

6)  ”Don’t tell [insert name of pregnant friend/ family member]; it’ll upset her.”

7)  ”At least you didn’t know him/her.”

8)  ”At least it happened before you bought anything for the baby.”

9)  ”There must have been something wrong with the baby.”

 

Read the full article here of things not to say to a woman who has experienced a miscarriage.

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Studio 5: Are You Self-Aware or Self-Absorbed?

We each have a long list of personal responsibilities: our finances, careers, bodies, families, etc. It’s critical to be aware of our lives and our needs. But when does self-awareness become self-obsession? Do we think about ourselves too much?  Here’s how to determine if you’re self-aware or self-absorbed:

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Getting to Know Clair Mellenthin, LCSW, Clinical Director of Wasatch Family Therapy

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PsychCentral recently interviewed our very own Clair Mellenthin, the Clinical Director here at Wasatch Family Therapy. Clair was asked about how she copes with stress, the best part of her job, and her overall experiences being a therapist. Here are a few of her answers:

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5 Things I Wished I’d Known In Graduate School

Common Therapy QuestionsI feel very privileged to be an adjunct professor at Westminster and University of Utah.  I really enjoy teaching, it re-energizes me. I love the student’s thirst for knowledge and dedication to their field. I remember trying to juggle school, work, practicum, and family and how difficult it is but how excited I was to start my career.  I wanted to construct a blog detailing what I wished someone had told me. Although the advice is specifically for people in the counseling field, it has application for anyone in higher education.

  1. Worry less about grades and focus more about gaining knowledge/experience.  (Yes, this is coming from someone who literally freaked out when they got an A-).  I have never had a client or even a job ask about my GPA.  They wanted to know my skills and training.
  2. Interview your practicum placement.  If it isn’t a good fit, find somewhere else.  One of my internships was amazing the other placement was horrible.  I knew from the beginning that my second placement wasn’t good but I didn’t want to look like a “quitter.”  I didn’t realize that the interview process needs to be mutual and that I needed to take charge of my learning experience. There is no shame in saying it isn’t what you want.
  3. Attend as many professional trainings that you can.  Most trainings have a big discount for students, take advantage of it!  Even if that means using some of your student loans- trainings are a great investment.  Especially if the trainings have a certification or count towards a special licensure. This will distinguish you between other graduates and help you find your specialties/passions. They also are a great place to network and become involved in professional organizations.
  4. Find a mentor. You will need an advocate to help you navigate the field, for consultation and support. A mentor can be a professor at your school, your clinical supervisor or someone in your professional organization. A good mentor should support and challenge you at the same time.
  5. Start a professional case portfolio.  Some of the most difficult/interesting cases I worked was when I was a student.  I didn’t realize at the time that I would want to refer back to details and interventions (for training or evaluation purposes).  Keep notes in your personal files without identifying information.  Obtain consent to video-tape sessions and interventions.

Hang in there, it will get better.  Hopefully, you will look back on this experience with some fondness or at least relief that it is over.

-Holly Willard, LCSW

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Five Stress Relieving Strategies For Busy People

Wasatch Family Therapy DepressionChronic stress causes problems in every area of life, not the least of which is physical sickness and mental exhaustion. Many people’s depression and/ or anxiety can be traced to chronic high levels of stress. We live in a face-paced and complex world with more stressors than ever. The problem is that people who are stressed out don’t feel they have the time to do anything about it- and so the stress gets worse and worse.

When you honestly have very little time to take a step back from life and take care of yourself, you need to get creative about carving out peaceful moments throughout each day. Prioritize and simplify wherever you can, because as the old adage says, if you don’t take time to be well now, you will certainly take time to be sick later. While you’re figuring out how to cut some things out (!), here are some simple strategies you can implement today to de-stress:

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